...is preparation to fail.
I'm using this cool, Real Simple graphic of spoons in a drawer again because a) I love it and 2) I've been getting my collective "house" in order.
A couple of weekends ago, when I was back home visiting, I was awakened early Sunday morning by screams from my mom. Needless to say, it was unsettling. She had fallen in the dark, on her way to the bathroom, and long story short, my brother and I ended up in the ER with her.
She is totally fine now, although at the time she was beside herself with pain and confusion. And so were my brother and I. We did not react very well to this mini-crisis at first, but we picked up the slack and got her the care she needed.
All of this got me to thinking about making arrangements for life's little uncertainties well in advance. For example, I was faced with this question: Sir, what is your mother allergic to? And I promptly drew a blank. My brother knew less than I did.
Now, granted, Barb is completely back to her version of normal now. And she's way (
way) too young to be "falling," but these are the kinds of things one should prepare for before they are needed.
Suze always says that one needs a
will and trust. I'm now working on that, despite my lack of vast wealth or children.
The important thing is to make your wishes known to your immediate family, despite your current health, income, living situation, etc. If (God forbid) your health were to take a turn for the worse, would you want life support? Who gets your house? Your money? Your
creepy doll collection? Do you want to be buried? Cremated? Other?
I'm not trying to be all macabre here, but I've had a bit of a wakeup call, and I want to pass along this life lesson that I'm currently in the midst of learning.